Relationships

How often once u cross the teenager age friends, others and your experiences tells u that "everyone, boyfriend, girlfriend, friend, bestfriend has an end but family doesnt...." Ever thought about why is it so? what really makes our family so special? why in the whole world we try to look outside for people to talk.. try new people and in the end you dont get what u deserve? Why disappointment doesnt come even when u are just done with a huge fight? Why is it that we tend to question ur judgement of having ur best friend just after a small misunderstanding?
            The answer is simple... with family comes commitment.... Its the only explanation that can be given... You've lived with ur family for the past 25+ years...... How can u let go of something towards which u were attached for so long? :) There the commitment comes both ways.. There would be moments when you would be having difficult times like.. u might be thinking ur parents are not doing enough for u, u feel there is a big generation gap because of which they're acting weird, ur parents feel u are the black sheep of the family, ur parents feel u dont understand the responsibility, u might feel ur parents doesnt care about u and they really dont know u.... Everything is true...
         During other relationships, We tend to have fights, we have similar emotions, anger, hatred, trust issues, jealousy, partners not understanding each other, commitment issues, etc. Once u start to have such emotions in other relationships, u tend to lose interest or u might try to find someone better or one may choose not to go for any future commitment....

              It is not that any of the relationship has an end..... Once we understand the meaning of the word commitment, i dont think there is anything else that would hold any relationship... Even through the greatest storm u will come out... that too not alone.... Commitment is like, when u throw a baby up..... it'll laugh.... why? because the baby knows that u will be there to hold him.... Even if u drop the baby once, it would still have that assurance that next time when u throw the baby up, u would be there to hold him... That is called as commitment... and it goes both ways... but that doesnt mean that if ur partner did something wrong, like dropping the baby, that he is not committed. Trust is another factor that u need to have... there is no excuse saying that u are a girl and u cannot trust ur partner.... No... If u trust ur family, u can have trust in other relationships too...
         Having a broken relationship might lead us to take extreme steps like not getting committed at all... Well... thats not the lesson that we should've learnt... :) if u are afraid to give commitment next time, trust issues steps in...  Its a cycle... u cannot run from it.....  We have to forgive.. we need to learn from the kind of love u give ur family, to ur friends to keep a relationship from ending....

           None of the relationship will have an end, unless u give up... 

Principles

Everyone lives by a code... a set of principles.. .which defines who they want to be in this world.... A code, which they have set by going through various stages of lives... thus alter and redefining the code.... Once we're onto the belief of that code... we want to   try it the other way.... as to what if we're wrong about those set of principles..... We then try to go against them and try to do the things that doesnt fit the code.... Some lessons we learn it faster and we conclude that we were right.... but some codes... we go deep... so deep.. that it'll take u ages to come to the conclusion that we were right... the whole time... we were right.. but when u learn it, u might have become a different person altogether... playing against the code the whole time.... u learnt the lesson the hard way.. it took us years to understand that our principles were correct.... u would seem lost now.... because you've been playing against ur principles for so long that they're not longer that defines who u are... The feeling right now is like.. all these time you've been dreaming.. and when u were so much into that dream, someone pours water on you and wake you up.. Everything happens so suddenly that even during such actual situations, it takes time for you to come out into reality... Same happens here... it takes us time to come out and come back to our code.... Only to make us realize that we were correct... but it makes us stronger... all the more stronger than you ever were.... some of us just give up and take a different path... thus forgetting everything about the code... it would lead them to a destructive path... 

Wrong Decisions

        Sometimes we think that the decisions that we took were wrong and u might want to kill yourself for that... You might see that because of the decisions that you took, others were hurt too..... We start to think about the alternate life that we could've been in if we hadnt taken that decision...

            Thats not correct... If you really care about something or someone, then whatever decisions that you'd take is never wrong...  if something you did in something that you believe in made you happy, then its never called a bad decision.... things might not work out the way you might have thought it to be.... We always eventually end up getting a better life...

           We must look into our past.. we need to search for decisions that we had taken that has lead us to the present... If u already got an answer to those decisions that u had taken, then you will understand life.... We need to keep analyzing our past inorder to understand the present unanswered decisions...

          None of the decisions are wrong if u took the decision for someone else.... If you had taken a decision for someone else, u can never hurt the other person because u already have given a lot of thought to it... things might not end up as you had thought to be... but it actually ends up being good... Sometimes its not the words that you actually say that might help the other person.. sometimes its the silence and the belief you put in the other person that you'll be there for them always, that makes them strong... 

Answers to our questions

Everyone in this world has a question... why cant we get this? why cant we get that? why cant things go right? Everyone is so confused and frustrated about these questions.... One might be looking out for a job... but he might end up in something totally different work profile.... He might choose not to take it... but eventually due to the 'worldly pressure', he would end up taking a work profile he wasnt interested in... what does that mean now?  Does that mean that he dont deserve to get a job in which he is interested in? The answer is No... he does deserve it.. but he aint ready yet... For one to pursue his ambitious work, he needs to be prepared before getting one.... otherwise he wont be able to sustain.....

           Everyone in this world is confused... No one knows what to do... no one knows what they'll get if they try... but eventually they get what they had dreamt of at one point of life..... The point here is, we need to be patient about what we want to get.... If we're not successful, we need to be patient and keep up the good work in present. We are forced to shape up for the future... We need to accept the present as it is.... One shouldnt be angry or frustrated with anything that goes around or what he gets... Instead it turns out to be beneficial in the future because u become what you are now in the future... all the qualities that you accumulate over a period of time will define the way you be in the future...

        We need to be patient in life.... We would not get what we want.. but we definitely get what we deserve... Life is quite simple... its us who are seeking for answers and its us who dont have patience to sit for getting the answers.. we want the answers quick... Everytime you fall... everytime you're hurt... everytime you're defeated, it doesn't mean that you were wrong..

      We just need to understand the fact that the answers to our questions are getting prepared... Just be patient and give your 100% to the present....

Life... won't it be beautiful like this?

The most unfair thing about life is the way it ends. I mean, life is tough. It takes up a lot of your time. What do you get at the end of it? A Death! What's that, a bonus? I think the life cycle is all backwards. You should die first, get it out of the way. Then you live in an old age home. You get kicked out when you're too young, you get a gold watch, you go to work. You work forty years until you're young enough to enjoy your retirement. You do drugs, alcohol, you party, you get ready for high school. You go to grade school, you become a kid, you play, you have no responsibilities, you become a little baby, you go back into the womb, you spend your last nine months floating...

...and you finish off as an orgasm.

Face the change than to fear the change

Life is full of surprises... Everything depends upon how we take them..... There is no one person in the whole world who has a so called perfect life.. because the definition of perfect life changes every time.... We try to re-define the perfect life... Life would be strictly boring if it goes the way you think.... There will be one point in life where you would start to think the purpose of life because everything would be going on the way you think it should go... We would get bored of life because we know whats going to come... That is where life plays with us and keeps us interested in the game....