Communication is the major part that is between any relationship. Relations could be anything. any relationship need to have a good communication inorder to remove all the misconceptions between them. communication must be done to clarify things out.
We are afraid to talk and we try to make guesses about the opposite person. we really dont speak with him/ her. what we dont realize is that most of the time there is nothing the way we think and whats going on our mind.. its just in our head doing all the stupid calculations. But later on we think that we should have talked about it to the other person. after so many incidents, still we are like that. why cant we speak confidently and tell others about the feeling you have. what we think before telling is that what if the person takes it in the wrong way? well if the person is taking it in the wrong way, thats just because you are screwing up in telling it... just speak confidently. just get out the feelings....
Saturday, December 30, 2006
Sunday, December 24, 2006
Understanding
Understanding is the major part of human life. We need to understand about everything that is happening in the surrounding. Even the leaf falling, we must understand it. People wants each other to understand them. No one is perfect. But the thing is whether or not you are perfect for each other. Understanding plays an important role in a relationship. Everybody understands the situation. But it could be now or it could be 2 years from now. But he/she would really come to know. Understanding is not difficult but its not that easy too..
Saturday, November 18, 2006
Happiness: Deceived debris
what is happiness? what depends upon how much happy we are? what are the major causes that makes the happiness less happy or more happy? These are the questions which no one has time to ask or don't realize the importance....
We are happy when our plans work out.. We are happy when things go the way we think it should go or happen or get... but we never get the things we want.. but we get something more than that. And we come to know about its value later. People are searching for this for so long and their entire life but they are still looking for it.
What i really dont understand is why after so many years of experience and all, people are still sad and they feel that they are happy in their whole life. They start to blame others and God for this.
We are happy when our plans work out.. We are happy when things go the way we think it should go or happen or get... but we never get the things we want.. but we get something more than that. And we come to know about its value later. People are searching for this for so long and their entire life but they are still looking for it.
What i really dont understand is why after so many years of experience and all, people are still sad and they feel that they are happy in their whole life. They start to blame others and God for this.
Monday, November 06, 2006
No belief is right or wrong. It is either empowering or limiting
Ever heard the story of the four-minute mile? For years people believed that it is impossible for a human being to run a mile in less than four minutes until Roger Banister proved it wrong in 1954. Within one year, 37 runners broke the belief barrier. And the year after that, 300 other runners did the same thing.
What happens if you put an animal in a pond? Any animal, big or small, will swim its way through. What happens when someone, who does not know how to swim, falls in deep waters? You drown. If an animal who has not learned swimming could escape by swimming, why not you? Because you believe you will drown while the animal does not.
You have used a computer keyboard or a typewriter. Ever wondered why the alphabets are organized in a particular order in your keyboard? You might have thought it is to increase the typing speed. Most people never question it. But the fact is that this system was developed to reduce the typing speed at a time when typewriter parts would jam if the operator typed too fast.
These three cases show the power of our beliefs. There is no other more powerful directing force in human behavior than belief. Your beliefs have the power to create and to destroy. A belief delivers a direct command to your nervous system.
Have you heard about the placebo effect? People who are told a drug will have a certain effect will many times experience that effect even when given a pill without those properties.
What happens if you put an animal in a pond? Any animal, big or small, will swim its way through. What happens when someone, who does not know how to swim, falls in deep waters? You drown. If an animal who has not learned swimming could escape by swimming, why not you? Because you believe you will drown while the animal does not.
You have used a computer keyboard or a typewriter. Ever wondered why the alphabets are organized in a particular order in your keyboard? You might have thought it is to increase the typing speed. Most people never question it. But the fact is that this system was developed to reduce the typing speed at a time when typewriter parts would jam if the operator typed too fast.
These three cases show the power of our beliefs. There is no other more powerful directing force in human behavior than belief. Your beliefs have the power to create and to destroy. A belief delivers a direct command to your nervous system.
Have you heard about the placebo effect? People who are told a drug will have a certain effect will many times experience that effect even when given a pill without those properties.
| I use a snake in my workshops for children to show them how unrealistic some of their beliefs are. Students of a school in New Delhi, India, said snakes are slippery, slimy and poisonous. After doing an exercise for changing beliefs, they handled my snake and found it to be dry and clean. They also remembered that only three types of poisonous snakes exist in India. Have you ever scanned the 'to-let' advertisements in newspapers? Many say 'South Indians preferred'. Why? Many house owners told me that it is easier to get South Indians to vacate. The belief was that South Indians do not have the guts to fight. Now you figure out the impact of LTTE supremo Prabhakaran and Southern sandalwood smuggler Veerappan in changing this belief! It is also our belief that determines how much of our potential we will be able to tap. So you better examine some of your beliefs minutely. For example, do you believe that you can excel in whatever you do? Do you believe you are bad in mathematics? Do you believe that other people don't like you? Do you believe life is full of problems? What are your beliefs about people? No belief is right or wrong. It is either empowering or limiting. A belief is nothing but the generalization of a past incident. As a kid if a dog bit you, you believed all dogs to be dangerous. To change a particular behavior pattern, identify the beliefs associated with it. Change those beliefs and a new pattern is automatically created. I read this incident in a New York newspaper. "She met him in a singles' bar and they talked for a while. He offered her a drink and she enjoyed his company. Then he offered to drop her back home. While driving back, she realized that they were moving through narrow and strange roads. 'Oh God where is he taking me?' she thought but did not have the guts to ask. She cursed her decision to get into his car. All of a sudden she saw him taking a turn back into the highway just near her house. Smiling, he said: 'I took a short cut'." Did this story end the way you thought? Review your beliefs now and find out which ones are empowering and which ones you need to change. |
Friday, October 27, 2006
School days...
Gone are the days
When the school reopened in June,
And we settled in our new desks and benches.
Gone are the days
When we queued up in book depot,
And got our new books and notes.
Gone are the days
When we wanted two Sundays and no Mondays, yet
Managed to line up daily for the morning prayers.
Gone are the days
When we chased one another in the corridors in Intervals,
And returned to the classrooms drenched in sweat.
Gone are the days
When we had lunch in classrooms, corridors,
Playgrounds, under the trees and even in cycle sheds.
Gone are the days
When a single P.T . period in the week's Time Table, Was awaited more
eagerly than the monsoons.
Gone are the days
Of fights but no conspiracies,
Of Competitions but seldom jealousy.
Gone are the days
When we used to watch Live Cricket telecast,
In the opposite house in Intervals and Lunch breaks.
Gone are the days
When few rushed at 5:30 to
"Conquer" window seats in our School bus.
Gone are the days
Of Sports Day, and the annual School Day,
And the one-month long preparations for them.
Gone are the days
Of the stressful Quarterly, Half Yearly and Annual Exams,
And the most enjoyed holidays after them.
Gone are the days
We learnt, we enjoyed, we played, we won, we lost, We laughed, we cried,
we fought, we thought.
Gone are the days
With so much fun in them, so many friends,
So much experience, all this and more.
Gone are the days
But not the memories, which will be
Lingering in our hearts for ever and ever and
Ever and ever and Ever.
Value For Money
"Money," wrote Ayn Rand, cult author and controversial propounder of objectivist philosophy, "is a tool of exchange, which can't exist unless there are goods produced and men able to produce them. Money is the material shape of the principle that men who wish to deal with one another must deal by trade and give value for value."
The catchphrase is 'value for value'. And, maybe, trust in a promise made on a piece of paper. In this sense, money or trade recognizes the belief that nothing in the world is free. Whatever we wish to have, has to be earned. So, if A wants what B owns, or is in a position to give, then A has to give B something of equal worth. Rand believed that only those who did not want to trade would condemn money. Who wanted for free what others had created with their effort and capability.
"Money has served as a medium of exchange after trying a variety of other items, which were found lacking," explains N.K. Somani, CMD of Shree Vindhya Paper Mills, Mumbai. "Every person needs products and services in life. Money plays the role of a recognized value for the exchange of commodities and services. If there was no commonly-accepted unit for these transactions, there would be anarchy in the world."
MoneyRand went a step further in recognizing money as the means of sustenance. "Money is the source of survival," she wrote in Atlas Shrugged. "The verdict you pronounce upon the source of your livelihood is the verdict you pronounce upon your life." Perhaps it is worthwhile to wonder why money still draws so much flak. Why is it that most people hesitate to proclaim that they actually like money? What's the taboo all about? When did a simple tool for exchange metamorphose into an ambivalent entity that is at once a source of shame and exultation?
"The man who damns money has obtained it dishonorably; the man who respects it has earned it," proclaims Ayn Rand boldly.
The catchphrase is 'value for value'. And, maybe, trust in a promise made on a piece of paper. In this sense, money or trade recognizes the belief that nothing in the world is free. Whatever we wish to have, has to be earned. So, if A wants what B owns, or is in a position to give, then A has to give B something of equal worth. Rand believed that only those who did not want to trade would condemn money. Who wanted for free what others had created with their effort and capability.
"Money has served as a medium of exchange after trying a variety of other items, which were found lacking," explains N.K. Somani, CMD of Shree Vindhya Paper Mills, Mumbai. "Every person needs products and services in life. Money plays the role of a recognized value for the exchange of commodities and services. If there was no commonly-accepted unit for these transactions, there would be anarchy in the world."
MoneyRand went a step further in recognizing money as the means of sustenance. "Money is the source of survival," she wrote in Atlas Shrugged. "The verdict you pronounce upon the source of your livelihood is the verdict you pronounce upon your life." Perhaps it is worthwhile to wonder why money still draws so much flak. Why is it that most people hesitate to proclaim that they actually like money? What's the taboo all about? When did a simple tool for exchange metamorphose into an ambivalent entity that is at once a source of shame and exultation?
"The man who damns money has obtained it dishonorably; the man who respects it has earned it," proclaims Ayn Rand boldly.
Value For Money
"Money," wrote Ayn Rand, cult author and controversial propounder of objectivist philosophy, "is a tool of exchange, which can't exist unless there are goods produced and men able to produce them. Money is the material shape of the principle that men who wish to deal with one another must deal by trade and give value for value."
The catchphrase is 'value for value'. And, maybe, trust in a promise made on a piece of paper. In this sense, money or trade recognizes the belief that nothing in the world is free. Whatever we wish to have, has to be earned. So, if A wants what B owns, or is in a position to give, then A has to give B something of equal worth. Rand believed that only those who did not want to trade would condemn money. Who wanted for free what others had created with their effort and capability.
"Money has served as a medium of exchange after trying a variety of other items, which were found lacking," explains N.K. Somani, CMD of Shree Vindhya Paper Mills, Mumbai. "Every person needs products and services in life. Money plays the role of a recognized value for the exchange of commodities and services. If there was no commonly-accepted unit for these transactions, there would be anarchy in the world."
MoneyRand went a step further in recognizing money as the means of sustenance. "Money is the source of survival," she wrote in Atlas Shrugged. "The verdict you pronounce upon the source of your livelihood is the verdict you pronounce upon your life." Perhaps it is worthwhile to wonder why money still draws so much flak. Why is it that most people hesitate to proclaim that they actually like money? What's the taboo all about? When did a simple tool for exchange metamorphose into an ambivalent entity that is at once a source of shame and exultation?
"The man who damns money has obtained it dishonorably; the man who respects it has earned it," proclaims Ayn Rand boldly.
The catchphrase is 'value for value'. And, maybe, trust in a promise made on a piece of paper. In this sense, money or trade recognizes the belief that nothing in the world is free. Whatever we wish to have, has to be earned. So, if A wants what B owns, or is in a position to give, then A has to give B something of equal worth. Rand believed that only those who did not want to trade would condemn money. Who wanted for free what others had created with their effort and capability.
"Money has served as a medium of exchange after trying a variety of other items, which were found lacking," explains N.K. Somani, CMD of Shree Vindhya Paper Mills, Mumbai. "Every person needs products and services in life. Money plays the role of a recognized value for the exchange of commodities and services. If there was no commonly-accepted unit for these transactions, there would be anarchy in the world."
MoneyRand went a step further in recognizing money as the means of sustenance. "Money is the source of survival," she wrote in Atlas Shrugged. "The verdict you pronounce upon the source of your livelihood is the verdict you pronounce upon your life." Perhaps it is worthwhile to wonder why money still draws so much flak. Why is it that most people hesitate to proclaim that they actually like money? What's the taboo all about? When did a simple tool for exchange metamorphose into an ambivalent entity that is at once a source of shame and exultation?
"The man who damns money has obtained it dishonorably; the man who respects it has earned it," proclaims Ayn Rand boldly.
Money Prologue
Like it. Loathe it. Want it. Waste it. But you just cannot ignore it. What is with money, that rumpled piece of printed-paper in your wallet that the world bows to its power? The secret lies in your own mind!
Let's talk money! Mammon's earthly incarnation. Satan's weapon of temptation. Capitalism's rightful expression. We are talking about a piece of paper, right? A scrap created from wooden goo that wouldn't even fetch a glass of water if used for trade on the basis of its actual worth.
So what makes money tick? We love it, we condemn it. We go all out to get as much of it as we can, then we berate it for being a temptation! We live with it and realize our dreams through it, yet are the first to say 'money can't buy everything'. Why?
But then, how do you evaluate the worth of something that in itself defines worth, at least commercially? Is money a capitalist weapon for exploitation? Or the most tactile evaluation and reward of our capabilities?
Perhaps it's only fair that we begin with one of the few people who actually championed money and its philosophical and ethical worth.
Let's talk money! Mammon's earthly incarnation. Satan's weapon of temptation. Capitalism's rightful expression. We are talking about a piece of paper, right? A scrap created from wooden goo that wouldn't even fetch a glass of water if used for trade on the basis of its actual worth.
So what makes money tick? We love it, we condemn it. We go all out to get as much of it as we can, then we berate it for being a temptation! We live with it and realize our dreams through it, yet are the first to say 'money can't buy everything'. Why?
But then, how do you evaluate the worth of something that in itself defines worth, at least commercially? Is money a capitalist weapon for exploitation? Or the most tactile evaluation and reward of our capabilities?
Perhaps it's only fair that we begin with one of the few people who actually championed money and its philosophical and ethical worth.
Wednesday, October 25, 2006
We Must Never Forget The Path
People really forget the path from where they come. As and when the person's status and company changes, his behaviour is affected and it is really felt by his close friends who is with him for a long time. We don't talk properly with others, feel ashamed of talking with other people with low status than we are, and all stuffs like that. We forget to respect, we forget the manners, we forget how to treat others, we forget what others might feel when you do stuffs like this.
There need not be any surprise when we are living our lives. Materialistic and fame life is temporary and it'll just lead you no where. And when you realize this, you would have been long gone and now you cannot come back. Why cant we just be humans?? We see something attractive and our mouth starts to water. After that we are totally blind to whatever is happening or who all are there around.
The Blog is incomplete. i'll get complete only after you give ur comments and ideas...
Friday, October 20, 2006
Things we forget
Hey,
People in this world, run whole of their life in search of comfort, luxury and stuffs all they see around with other people. What they dont realize is that "Grass is always greener on the other side". People dont really know what they want. Eg: At one time they would want a mobile but once they get it, they dont really realize that they are not done with what they have thought they would do after getting the mobile earlier when they were without it..
Stuffs happen. but its the experience that we hold and we must learn from it. We must understand every moment in life that happens, is for a reason. We always tell, "Shit i missed that bus". But later they realize how lucky they were not being on the bus which had met with an accident half an hour later. We often dont think about this when similar things happen and we start blaming others or God for that happened. But we dont feel sorry after know how lucky you were not be at that place..
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People in this world, run whole of their life in search of comfort, luxury and stuffs all they see around with other people. What they dont realize is that "Grass is always greener on the other side". People dont really know what they want. Eg: At one time they would want a mobile but once they get it, they dont really realize that they are not done with what they have thought they would do after getting the mobile earlier when they were without it..
Stuffs happen. but its the experience that we hold and we must learn from it. We must understand every moment in life that happens, is for a reason. We always tell, "Shit i missed that bus". But later they realize how lucky they were not being on the bus which had met with an accident half an hour later. We often dont think about this when similar things happen and we start blaming others or God for that happened. But we dont feel sorry after know how lucky you were not be at that place..
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About the Blog
Hey readers,
This blog is not really about fun or the fantacies about life.. This is to teach you about how the world is.. how people waste their entire life chasing something and finally when they realize that it was really utter waste of time.. and when you wake up, time has already passed by and you would be dying in sometime. I've been observing people, reading books, googling about the behaviour of people, about what they lack and what they really want, what they really end up in getting...
I would really like to post ur comments to into the matter. And contribute yourself in the rising of mankind...
Thanks
Sinu
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